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From the Perspective of a Young Black Woman

6/9/2013

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By: Kenah Lynnette Lyons, Guest Writer
Central Michigan University
Integrative Public Relations/Event Management/Journalism


In today’s society,  how affected a young, African-American male becomes after being raised in a single parent household without a father figure is a serious topic of discussion. Scholars from all over write on the issue and the debate continues today on whether or not it is an issue in connection to violence and negativity occurring amongst the young men. Young men, African-American particularly, are becoming involved in street engaged activities and leaning on substances that may damage their futures if they have not already. These young men never plan to endure these difficulties or engage in dangerous activities, but feel the need to in order to fill a void that they are missing. Many suggestions have been provided in how to help these young men of color. Organizations and programs that can be beneficial to the type of service they need have been offered as well. Not only do some of the young men seek attention and help, but the mothers and grandmothers of these young men are searching for it too. They agree with the critics that their sons, who may be rebellious or looking for attention in wrong places, need some type of help or counseling. Some of the activities that they get involved in sometimes put their lives at risk. Mothers and grandmothers all over are worried sick about their sons. Some are even feeling as if they have done the best they can at raising them, but because they have pulled every technique of parenting as they know it, should they give up on these young men? The answer is no. There is something these young men can fight their odds with and there are ways of doing it. 

What most of these people in discussion forget to realize is that young, African-American women are raised in the same or very similar situations. Many females are brought up in single-parent households due to a variety of circumstances. I, myself was raised in a single-parent household with just my mother. With that came many challenges similar to what males face under those circumstances and being a female of color did not make the situation that I faced more positive. My father was incarcerated when I was just three months old. He was sentenced to fifteen years in prison due to a high end crime leaving my mother with a new born baby to raise on her own. My mother never planned to raise me on her own. In fact, her and my father had a lot of plans for parenting together. Things changed quickly, but one thing that was not going to change was not having my father around. My mother made sure to give me special attention and to be there for me as much as possible. She worked hard to provide for me, the necessities, and did everything in her power to assure I had many of my wants.  My mother was the independent woman who wanted her daughter, her only child, to witness that things may not always go as planned, but with faith, things will surely go. It took me a while to grasp the concept of that method and at times I learned the hard way, but eventually I learned.

Just like myself, there are African-American women who have been raised like this and young, African American women who are in those current conditions today. Although they may not endure and seek the same attention that the men do, they do undergo many trials and engage in substances that are not good for self. Just like the males, they may encounter these things because of the upbringing they were faced to experience. Not many women engage in criminal violence or anything crime related, but it definitely does happen. Our African-American men are criticized more for it and they are brought to the light before any women who may have committed the same types of things. Many of these women being raised without a father face emotional instability in different ways. They look for love in all the wrong places, especially in the male species because that is wherewith the lack of love lies. They look for young men to give them special attention that they should have known in a father. This is very dangerous and surfaces other issues following the matter. Females are more emotionally attached when it comes to those in their lives and those who are not in their lives. It takes them a while to deal with the fact that someone will not be there or has chosen to leave. 

I remember always feeling unappreciated. It took me years to wrap my head around the fact that my dad did what he did. I could not understand how a person could have just helped bring something so precious into the world and do something to jeopardize his presence in that precious life. He missed seeing me grow up and watching me mature. He missed holidays, birthdays, and programs that I was in. My anger towards not having him in my life used to be my energy. I used that negative energy and got negative results. I fell for peer pressure a number of times and I did things I had no business doing as a young adult. My anger started to defeat me so much that I began to use it as violence, always physically fighting another female or feeling like I had to. The male species was my weakness. Almost every guy who looked good to me, I fell for. I believed in the sweet talk and the moments that were too good to be true until I realized that everything that looked good to me was not good for me. I fought my mom and went against her word for reasons unknown. I took it out on her when she was the one who had never left my side and wanted so much better for me. I let my struggle defeat me. I let my struggle get the best of who I was and I let my struggle stand in front of my possible successes in life.

Like we all can, male and definitely female whom I can relate too, I overcame it. I decided to stop seeking those vulnerabilities and to not keep grudging others because my dad made a few bad decisions in his life. Instead, I fought it with faith and success. My mother had a lot to do with that, being that she instilled morals in me that I decided to live upon. Instead of finding love in the wrong places, I looked to the higher power because I knew that for however long my father would not be around, God would always be there to protect me. I leaned on my faith and I learned that I needed to switch gears. My success became my motivation. If young, African American men and women set goals for themselves, then they will look no further than the intents of the success that they are obtaining. I got involved with youth programs and outreach organizations. I was as active as possible to stay focused on the things that would push me and make me appreciate my struggle. Criticizing and discussing young individuals in similar situations to me is the least that people can do. These young people need to be pushed, motivated, believed in and tried; all things that my mother along with mentors did with me. If no one would see their worth, then they will not see their own worth either. This is a struggle that is not small. This affects every individual differently. To be raised by one brings forth the feeling of feeling as one, alone. To feel like the world is being faced alone is a hard task to complete until one finds the most positive things to face the world with.

They proverb is true; "It takes a village to raise a child", and when a child is put in a compromising situation by the irresponsibility of a parent, then that village has to be summoned with a moral obligation to that child. With programs like the Motivational Foundation, Boys & Girls Club, youth groups etc., a child can have that village. Cities such as Flint should not bash the young people for the mishaps they encounter, but instead should recognize why they are going down the route they are going. Children and young adults do not lack visions, talents, and dreams, they lack motivation. They need power in their potential and strength in their struggles; some of the same things I needed to get where I am today. It is not the moment that one sees that they are struggling, but the moment that one sees that troubles do not last always. It is not always what one has been through, but how they got through it. There is no success with no struggle and when young, African- American women and men, no matter what their situations may or may not be, they will be the forces of the world and change agents of society if we all pull together and become that village.


 

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From the 4th Annual College Tour Experience with The B.E.O.M. Foundation

4/7/2013

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The 4th Annual College Tour Experience was, in my opinion, awesome.  We met new people, seem and did new things, built new relationships, and gained interest in many HBCU schools.  Give us some feedback. Please send all pictures to BlakeOdum@gmail.com

Tell us about your experience.  Tell us what you thouhgt!

-Blake E. Odum, CEO
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Advice to Students and Educators on the New School Year

9/4/2012

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Today marks a fresh, new school year for millions of students all around the country.  I hope that this year is filled with exciting adventures and opportunities for all who embark on this educational journey with a greater outlook on the outcome. 

How serious are you about your student(s)' education?  How serious are you about your education?  As the demand for education increases, we  too, must increase our own demand to educate ourselves. Grab this thing by the horns and don't fall off of the ride lol.  And IF you do fall off, GET BACK ON IMMEDIATELY.  We must remember that failure is not meant for fatality, it is meant to teach us, to mode us, ...to strenghten us.


Let us be patient with our elementary school students and remember that the young people are our future leaders.  We must train them, mode them, and guide them.  We CANNOT use our authority to break their spirits and crush their dreams.  Yes, dreams and wishes are attainable and they DO come true.  It is our job to allow them to believe that. It is our job to equip them with everything that they may need in order to make their dreams happen. It takes a village to raise a child. We must not forget that.

To our middle school students, let us grow to learn who we truly are.  Our biggest agenda is not to fit in with the rest of the crowd, but to stand out amongst the great ones.  You must educate yourselves and remember that you are the student for a reason.  Once we get aquainted with ourselves, we will realize that we are highly intelligent beings with the capacity to learn beyond measurable standards.  Then we will be ready for high school.

To our High School students;  the time is now to really get your hands dirty.  We have no time to waste.
 
Freshman; Everything that you do now, will affect you for the remainder of your high school life.  Why not just get it right the first time.  Take all precautionary measures RIGHT NOW, to build a strong foundation for the years to follow.  If you can maintain a 3.5GPA or higher for this one year, it is highly likely that you will graduate with honors.

Sophomores; you have not made it yet! Build upon whatever you did last year. If you did good last year, do better this year! If you didn't do your best last year, then do better this year. Now is the time to fix it. Don't wait. you can't afford it.
 
Juniors; whatever the past may be, the ball is in your court.  College Prep is at the forefront (It really began in 9th grade).  Your focus should be, senior year...? how do I get there from here...? what do I have to do to get into college...? what college do you want to go to...? how can you get scholarship money...? college tours...? (
click here for more information about 4th Annual Atlanta Area College Tour lol) ...what do you want to do in life...? your goals...? apply to colleges and universities...? etc.

Seniors; Congratulations to you... there is light at the end of the tunnel, however, you are not at the end of the tunnel.  The only cure for Senioritis is to watch your peers receive their caps and gowns and your name isn't called because you don't have enough credits.  I hope that scared you because that is a saulty feeling. Get everything taken care of, don't miss a beat, get all of your assignments turned in and HAVE FUN ...but not too much fun.  Take a moment and enjoy being a leader, senior year will go by in a blink of an eye.

To all my college students, whatever your degree may be, whatever your year may be, Dr. Melvin Peters said it best; "This is not a damned race! Take your time....but get finished! College is about more than a degree." Plain and simple!

God Bless and Good Luck,
Blake E. Odum, CEO

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From the Desk of George Watkins (Clark Atlanta University)

8/31/2012

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The Atlanta College Tour Chat Room

1/31/2012

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First I would like to say that I am very pleased with the content of this trip. All Praise is due to God.

Please post your experiences from the college tour here. We need feedback and constructive dialogue. How can we help you? What are your thoughts? Where do we go from here? Let's use this as a tool to talk amongst each other so that we can keep more beneficial and exciting events like this coming your way.

-Blake E. Odum, CEO
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The Educated Ignorant

7/12/2011

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    In my great quest to find our lost children and to help them find themselves, I've been captivated by the song of our dear brother John Legend entitled, "Shine".

    I realize that it is up to those of us who have been privileged enough to receive education, to educate our children lest they dwell in ignorance.  Our duty, especially those of us who are members organizations for the betterment of mankind, is to deposit seeds of power in hope that they will one day blossom into great Oak Trees of wisdom baring fruit that will render peace and righteousness to deliver our children out of their ignorance. The educated man who fails to educate the children, isn't educated at all--he is a victim of his own ignorance, thus making him an ignorant man.

    Our dear brother John Legend speaks in profound reference to     our children when he said;
            "They wait to plead their case, unknown cast aside
            I love to see their face, can we spare the light?
            Are we afraid to see them, prisoners of history
            These beautiful minds, trapped inside, bring them back to             life."
Let not organized education and degrees of certification rob us of the true function of education itself.

"The function of education, therefore, is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. But education which stops with efficiency may prove the greatest menace to society. The most dangerous criminal may be the man gifted with reason, but with no morals. We must remember that intelligence is not enough. Intelligence plus character--that is the goal of true
education."
-Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

May Peace be upon you and may your heart be touched,
-Blake E. Odum, CEO
The Motivational Foundation
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The Power of Black Creationism

4/18/2011

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As I find it a great need to address the plight of the African American male, I must first take into consideration the American in general.  For hundreds of years, the African American human being, has learned to adapt to the climate of American living.  The generalized American was granted certain amenities to make life more sustainable; the African American went against the societal grain and created his own amenities for mere survival. The African American way of life WAS to CREATE that in which you NEED. Somewhere along the line, we have lost our zeal to create, but the artistry of adaptation has taken root in our lineage and it has branched out into the generation.  This is a remarkable trait, one of many, that links us together.

However, this is not enough.  It is only through creationism, that we can change the reality that plagues us.  It is only through creationism that the great poets of the Harlem Renaissance can transform a Harlem concrete jungle into an artistic haven of pure brilliance.  It is only through creationism that African Americans, stuck in the slums and ghettos of major cities across the country, can demand the benefits of self-education and birth forth ingenious activity.  Through creationism, we breath on the future of our coming generations and declare greatness over their footsteps.  It is only through creationism that YOU make your SURROUNDINGS/ENVIRONMENT become a product of YOU. Adaptation plus creationism is the true foundation of African American existence.  What are you creating? and more importantly, what are you allowing yourself to adapt to?

Wake up my people and Peace be upon you all,

Blake E. Odum


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